Having a healthy relationship, wherein both partners love and care for each other, is indeed a wonderful thing. Nothing can probably be more reassuring or comforting than to have someone who makes you feel secure and loved; to have someone that you know would listen to you and be there beside you no matter what happens. Its equally wonderful to have someone in your life to love and care for, a special someone who inspires you to become a better person. However, its a sad fact that not all relationships are like this. Its important for both people in a relationship to be involved in nurturing it. It just doesnt work if only one person is making all the effort, while the other isnt. Whats even worse is when youre starting to live in fear and experience pain because your partner is hurting you. Its important to be aware that no one has to endure this.
The first step to help you put an end to this is to acknowledge the signs of an abusive relationship. One of the most common signs is when you feel afraid of your partner most of the time. Some people fear their partners because theyre being physically abused. This is when one person in the relationship uses physical force against the other. Studies show that those who have been physically injured by a partner, even just once, is more likely to be assaulted again compared to those who arent physically abused. An abusive partner is usually dependent on their partner. They might think that theyre in control of the relationship; however, they actually feel powerless when theyre out there.
Another sign that you need to acknowledge is when youre experiencing low feelings of self-worth. If youre being emotionally abused or constantly threatened, humiliated, teased, bullied or manipulated, its more likely that youd have a low self-esteem as a result. Also, you might start becoming emotionally numb. Emotional abuse may not be as obvious as physical abuse. However, the pain that an emotional abuse can result is not only for the time being. It can last even longer than the pain caused by physical abuse.
Its important for you to find a certain place or person that you can go to, especially when your partner gets violent. Its helpful to look for a support group, because its where youll find many others who are similarly experiencing what youre going through. Also, you might find it interesting to learn self-help strategies and other helpful techniques by joining a mindfulness class. Maintaining outside relationships can be helpful instead of keeping yourself alone in one place. You might find it helpful to talk to other people that you trust about the way your partner is treating you. Furthermore, keep in mind that if you think you need help, its always a good idea to look for a good therapist or counselor. They are the ones who have undergone proper training to help you deal with your relationship problems, and help you find ways to get out of an abusive relationship.
If youre feeling afraid, depressed or deeply hurt, its important for you to realize that its best for you to end an abusive relationship. Keep in mind that you deserve nothing less, but to be happy, and to be in a healthy relationship.
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